Healthy Relationships part one

• Posted by Rev. Lisa Taylor August 19, 2013 - #  - 826 views
  I want to share some things I found out over the last week, bare with me best one can , buckle up hang on because as in everything I do it's gonna be one heck of a ride. Last night I tried to explain some feelings to a dear friend and I dang sure believe I made some good points , some crazy points and some down right raw honesty , there are things in this world that are what we call ( it just is ) syndrome . Oh yes most of you know what that is , ( no pun intended ) so let's get started and see where this takes us, I use to live in this very small community back years ago, a little over ahhh hmmmm 20 years ago to be correct, I was married had four wonderful children but as most things it wasn't as it seemed to the outside world. unknown at the time I didn't realize how my life was twisted into friendships that later would prove to be my salvation , I moved away for 10 years and spent that time in Texas , I made connections with a handful of people which became my family , they are equally as important to me because, well it just is, oh yes the just is syndrome. I watched through the years as my friends struggled with different types of relationships , love interest , child parent and friendship , loads of emotion and broken hearts . I went through some very rough times myself, a real life roller coster ride that never ends and free to for all to experience. Most of us have had sexual relationships with someone we thought were the soulmate meant to be type of thing, be it with the one you married to someone that you thought was gonna be the one and only, myself I can honestly say my number is low, very low , four to be exact, oh a shocker on a minister site , Me of all people talking about a subject that is just not appropriate for the easily shocked. Well can't make a cake without breaking a few eggs, two of the four were of course my two husbands and two some would call the rebound guy, but however both these guys were in my life for over more than a few years each and both had plans for life long commitments, (the just is syndrome ) each one in their own right I thought were very close to me well at the time, but there are some things that I wasn't sharing with them, and there were some things they did not share with me, Normal relationships ? One would think it would be,no one really shares everything with their life partner , isn't that what we use our friends for ? A sounding board , everything from surprises for your partner to oh let me tell you what that stink did today ? Uhhuh about right now your sitting there with a big ole grin on your face thinking wow this woman knows me , well no I don't know you , I am you. those awkward moments people flirting with you attracted to others but knowing ( it just is ) nothing really most of us would act upon , harmless best keep it to our self in fear of hurting your partner or causing undo fights, more than likely its a combination of both, they wouldn't understand anyway right ? You love your partner to the very core so mums the word no need to mention it , then as I said the very small things that just down right get on your nerves , this sound like any of you ? If they clear their throat in that annoying way one more time to get my attention while I'm watching a movie I'm going to !!!! Yep you can finish that thought on your own. In all relationships it gives you something that you need , it might not be know to us but (it just is). Sometimes we don't get anything we need and that leads to a whole other story and ends most relationships. Now where am I going with all this ? Oh yeah ok here's something folks can relate to , meet someone new , oh this is gonna be good. One starts off with too many thoughts , is this person for real ? What the heck do they see in a mess like me ? Well crap , they sound so I got it together type,I better work on myself so I'm worthy of their love and attention , ha ha oh I know can't fool me you been there and probably do it a few times before it sinks in, no one is perfect, we are not designed to be perfect , we are designed to grow and learn, oh the pain of honest reality sinks in and takes hold, your best friends give you sound advice , don't worry , be yourself , they will love you because of who you are on the inside , but do anyone of us take that advice ? We sure would like to think we do. I thought I did , a few days ago , this goes back all them dang years ago with relationships I didn't know was tightly bounded together as it was and is now, my eyes were opened wide and I found it shocking to realize what makes a true real healthy relationship between two people. Ask yourself before reading on if I so far know what I'm talking about ? If you find that I do not then stop reading now because your not going to get anything from this ,a headache and time wasted for sure , but however when you reach this point in your life you want to stand up and meet reality head on then by all means read the next few blogs I post with the name ( healthy relationships ) look forward to your comments and opinions , and btw this is the beginning of the up side of this ride we all know its gonna drop and climb again ;)