Dealing with Pain
Into each life some rain must fall. I’m not sure if that’s the exact quote but you get the idea, this however is:
“It doesn’t interest me what planets are squaring your moon, I want to know if you have been touched by the center of your own sorrow, if you have been opened by life’s betrayals or have become shriveled and closed from fear of further pain. I want to know if you can sit with pain, mine or your own, without moving to hide it or fade it or fix it.
This is from “the Invitation” by Oriah Mountain Dreamer
We’ve all dealt with pain, sorrow, and betrayals in our lives, some more than others. The lesson is in how we react. Do we “hide” it? Keep it bottled up, because we ALL know deep down that NEVER works. Do we “fade” it? “If I ignore it long enough, it will just go away”. Or is “fixing” it the way to go?
My solution, breathe. Yes it’s that simple. Spend time alone, in nature if you can. Appreciation of the simplest things put other things in perspective. We cannot change what has happened to cause the pain or sorrow, and to “live there” is a mistake. The heart must go through the grieving process before it can heal, and it does not come easy. But you cannot and must not skip that step. De-nial is NOT a river in Egypt. It is a way of avoiding the pain. “A wound not fully felt, consumes from the inside” It is difficult to be there for someone else when you have not accepted your own pain. I cannot save a life here, I cannot save myself. Being tempted to close my heart again for fear of further pain by simply closing off parts of my life. What purpose would that serve? I hold no credentials in this area, I am not here to advise others, that was not my intention. These are merely my thoughts, and feedback and comments are welcome.
