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Rev. Dr. William Gray - PhD, DDiv

help understanding what i need to do...

  • Hello friends and family... I am in a quandary and am struggling with a religious issue. I (because of health issues and relationship issues) have move to northern CA. And this last weekend I attended a church service that really shocked and dumbfounded me. The denomination really doesn't matter at this point, so I won't go into that. The week before I went wearing my suit and tie... and EVERYONE welcomed me and was super nice. To test the waters, this last weekend I went in slacks and a really nice polo shirt. Now this church claims to be open and welcoming and tolerant, but not ONE person including the clergy even said hello to me. They even avoided looking at me. This really bothered me. So I spent the day yesterday talking with people. And the number one reason over all that I was told was the reason they did not go to church was because they do not feel welcome because they look different and dress different. I guess my quandary is this... is it time to start a new church here? Didn't Christ say to come to Him as we are? Aren't we supposed to welcome EVERYONE into His presence? "...as you have done it to the least of these you have done it unto me..." isn't that what we are supposed to be doing? I have been praying and meditating on this issue all night. I guess I need some opinions and guidance. I know there is a reason I was brought here in such a hurried state. The move for me happened withing hours of knowing I had a need. Please talk to me. Let me know your thoughts. I need your help. Thank you in advance for all you help and prayers. Love you all -- Will.

5 comments
  • Joseph Wolfe likes this
  • Sister Janet Bowser, BA Bible Theology
    Sister Janet Bowser, BA Bible Theology Wow. I'm glad that it was evident to you that the congregation and ministry were prejudging on appearance. Jesus didn't own a suit. I've been to both kinds of churches. I'm not a dressy type of person, but I love God with my whole heart.

    I recently atte...  more
    June 18, 2014 - 1 likes this
  • Rev. Vivian Mary Graciolett
    Rev. Vivian Mary Graciolett This is why I don't believe in churches. Until we all come together regardless of one's nationality, race, ethnic backround, color of skin, it does not matter. We Are All The Same. Judging comes from fear, control and ego. When these things dissapate, the...  more
    November 24, 2014
  • Rev. Becky Birch
    Rev. Becky Birch I agree some churches are judging, but I just attended an awesome multi-denominational service at a jewish synagogue, with Buddist, Catholic, Protestant, Lutheran, Science of the Mind, more... and it was so awesome to see everyone coming together. We the ...  more
    November 26, 2014 - 1 likes this
  • Rev. Vivian Mary Graciolett
    Rev. Vivian Mary Graciolett Rev. Becky..that is the kind of Church I am talking about. For those that CAN gather together without seperation is what would teach that love is the answer. We need all churches to turn into this. If we all see each other the same, love each other, help ...  more
    November 30, 2014