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Kris Jones Lee

Afraid of Death--or Afraid of Life?


  • Lots of people suffer from depression, and many more people suffer from a fear of death that paralyzes them into a safe, but static, cocoon. That cocoon seems safe at first, but it can easily become a prison if you only allow yourself to see the scary parts of being alive.   One person asked how to get past this fear, and I'd like to offer my own experience in the hope that they, and others, can allow themselves to see the joy in the now and to take one step at a time until they get through the veil of fear, into the light of love, joy, and life.   

     

    I am the only soul in the world who will experience this lifetime that *I* have been given. I'm really excited about that!  I can't wait to see where each next step will take me, and I am thrilled that I have all these unlimited opportunities to discover who I'll meet, what I'll learn, and/or if I need to retrace a step or two in order to change my surroundings, thus change the direction I'm going in, so that I can *Live my path of maximum Joy*. I want to share the pure, unconditional Love that I feel whenever I decide to be grateful for every opportunity, *and* every trial that I face where my own experiences can benefit one other person, whether either of us knows we benefited or not.  Never forget: it could *always* be worse. 

     

    The fact you're reading this means you can see, you can read, you can choose to read it or not, and you aren't dead.  There are worse things than being dead, too.  But I digress...the following is just my viewpoint, taken from my own experiences.   Take from it what you need, and don't worry about the parts that don't speak to you; everyone has a totally different personal experience of their own life to this point.  It would only stand to reason that my experiences will resonate with some, and not others.   

     

    Nothing disappears in the cosmos-it only converts to another form. Our souls convert to pure love energy. The body is merely a vessel for our soul to learn lessons in this lifetime, and once it expires, the consciousness is out and free. I died when a man strangled me to death, and came back into the body when he slammed me against the ground in fear after I quit breathing and my heart stopped. The worst thing we can do to ourselves is box ourselves in with fear of the unknown. We don't know what's going to happen in the next second. We can plan all we want, make appointments and rules, stay in our homes with fear, *or* we can say to ourselves, "Right now, I'm going to live fully so that when the time comes for me to go, I have no regrets on how I wish I hadn't spent all that time avoiding life." And death is not only part of life-- It's the *only* unconditional clause in the whole contract about coming here in the first place. Your loved ones are still checking in on you from time to time, too, and they can't be totally at peace until they know that they didn't somehow stunt your ability to live to your fullest potential. Someday, you're going to be a role model for someone, whether you realize it at the time or not...wouldn't you like your legacy to be one of love? Of the joy that comes with letting go of the fear and seizing every opportunity to share--to live *now*-- that you possibly can squeeze in? 

     

    And you get through this by taking that step, in spite of not knowing exactly where it's going to lead in the end, and allow yourself to feel the pure joy in every moment that can only come when you dare to take one step after another and LIVE! *HUG* I send you peace, love and the sight to see the joy that's around you everywhere, in just Being. Shed that cloak of fear like an old garment, give yourself a big hug, remind yourself how things *could* be worse at this very minute but aren't, and take the first step of *each today* for the rest of your life. 

     

    Namaste.  Simply put, "I honor that Spirit in you that is also in me, and in that Spirit is our Oneness."   We are all connected.  That also means that we are never alone.  Isn't that cool?

     

    Kris Jones, 21 Sept 2011

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