ANGER

• Posted by REV. ANDRE G. DENIS D.D. August 1, 2013 - #ph15  - 731 views
  Do Not Let the Sun Go Down on Your Anger.
  Maturity involves a lot of things, but surely it includes knowing how to process your anger. In fact, I believe there is no more dangerous emotion for a married couple to deal with than anger. Not all anger is wrong, but that it’s what you do with your anger that counts. “In your anger,”   “do not sin: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry”.... You have probably heard these familiar words " practice Love & Respect?" having real feelings is very human, but to let real feelings turn into hard feelings that rage on is childish and dangerous. When your anger takes control Try to remember that during marital tension, you can easily slip into what I call “default mode,” behaving in a way that reflects the human tendency to react more readily in a sinful way than a holy way. If not careful, you will follow your subjective and sinful feelings and justify these feelings because they are “so real.” If you feel frustrated, you can default into sinful anger. If you feel hurt, you can default into retaliation. If you wish to “make a firm point,” you can default into making a cutting remark. Justifying such feelings by calling them “righteous indignation”  “Your anger can never make things right  when you default into “just being human” and feed your carnal nature, Yes, you may have real feelings of frustration toward your mate, but you know that doesn’t justify losing it emotionally or saying nasty things. Yes, you may be angry, but you choose not to sin. You have real feelings of hurt from the misunderstanding, but you know it is an honest misunderstanding, and you decide to pull back, count to ten, and give yourself time to cool off.  “People with understanding control their anger; a hot temper shows great foolishness”. * “I believe there is no more dangerous emotion for a married couple to deal with than anger.” Do you both agree? What other emotions are hard for you to deal with? * When marital tension cranks up and frustration is turning to anger, why is slipping into “default mode” a real possibility? How much does rationalization have to do with allowing yourself to slip into default mode?. When I realize I’m getting angry, I will tell myself, I will not let the sun go down on my anger. Before I put my head on the pillow, my anger will be gone. What about you?.