After we stepped into this world someone had to teach us how to walk, tie our shoes, use words to communicate with others, or ride a bike, yet we probably are good at doing these things today. As a youngster we needed to learn and change in order to gain these skills, however, somehow, as adults we are inclined to resist learning new things or changing.
So what is the difference between us then and us today? The difference is that as children we continued to work on mastering new skills whether we believed we would achieve them or not, while as adults we fear and doubt the process, even though we have all of the evidence of our past successes. Someone along the way scared us to death about failure and the possibility of it actually happening, and “how it might look”.
How often do you have to think about how to pick up a spoon when you want to eat? Most likely you put no thought into it, and your hands and mind do the work. It just happens. When the mind learns and practices something enough number of times, it automatically does it when required. In psychology this wonder is called “implicit memory”. You operate based on what is recorded in your “unconscious” as opposed to conscious. So there is no need for your conscious mind to pay attention. In other words, you are on autopilot, unless if you are doing something new.
The benefits and importance of implicit memory are natural and effortless achievement of a task after continued practice. The hardest part of the change process may be the period of time when we are learning and consciously implementing the skills to get us where we want to go. So whether we are developing the tools to be a successful entrepreneur or working to improve a relationship, we must have the understanding that the more we put the tools into practice, the more natural they will seem, and the more smoothly they will function.
However, no matter how routine we make our lives, change is a necessary part in order for our lives not to fall apart. Look around you and within you; is there anything that is stagnant? Even the water in stagnancy stage is not what it seems because it is being evaporated, hence changing. Everything at all times is going through change, some visible to naked eye and some not. Without change, life does not exist.
“If you do not create change, change will create you.” ~Unknown
Our resistance to change does not matter in any way to the change other than the fact that it will make it difficult for “us” to go through it. If you are broke and you want money, be ready for change. If you are ill and you want health, be ready for change. Even if you resist or avoid it, change will enter your life just the same. When you initiate and embrace the change yourself, it’s pretty easy to adapt to it.
You grow and learn new things every time something changes. Adapting to change also brings about flexibility. In change, we find new opportunities. Each new beginning starts with a change.
Always remember that for you to wake up in the morning and go about all that is happening, your body has been undergoing changes every given moment. Without them, you will not be. Without change there will be no butterflies. Embrace change! Let’s start changing to better, one step at a time.
In Love & Light,
EL