Language is often lacking, isn’t it?
What words adequately describe your feelings when someone politely asks “How are you doing?” And, that same question, asked at different times during the day, would bring out different responses – as grief is so inconsistent and mercurial. What you say in response in the morning could be very different that what you say during the dinner hour.
Sometimes all it takes is to look deeply into the eyes of the person asking this question. If the eyes are the windows to the soul, as some wise sage once said, then they’ll be able to see your true feelings clearly – that is if they really want to know.
Often, people are just being polite in their questioning, and I know you’ll have the intuition to recognize their superficiality. Don’t fault them for it; they mean well.
Quotation for the Day
"There is no vocabulary
for this, the no-language of grief. I can reveal
what my brain thinks,
but where are the words for this vague pain I feel?" ~ Irene Earis, The Baffling Dead