Cast Your Cares On Him
When problems crop up, couples with an idealistic view of what constitutes a "good" marriage are quick to think, "We can never be that good! The chasm between where they are and where they think they should be seems hopelessly uncrossable.
Here's the good news: The great gulf is an illusion. A perfect marriage is impossible, and a great marriage is much easier than you think. Couples can begin getting back on track by cultivating and intimate relationship with God, depending on him for strengh, comfort and courage. But spouses in habitual conflict tend to abandon any spiritual life. If this decribes your marriage, get started again by each writing down three personal prayer request, then swapping lists. Pray for each other three times a day.
After a few weeks, try a month of praying aloud in front of each other daily, thanking God for one specific character quality or blessing you see in each other.
Eventually, try asking your spouse, "What would you like me to pray for about myself?" which is an invitation for constructive criticism. But after thirty days of hearing how and why your spouse loves you, you'll know he or she is on your side.
* Does conflict ever stop you from praying for your spouse? How could you get started again?
* Create a list of thirty of your spouse's positive character qualities, then use it in prayers of thanksgiving.
1 Peter 5:1-14
Psalms 37: 3-7
Isaiah 58:11-14
11 The LORD will guide you always;
he will satisfy your needs in a sun-scorched land
and will strengthen your frame.
You will be like a well-watered garden,
like a spring whose waters never fail.
12 Your people will rebuild the ancient ruins
and will raise up the age-old foundations;
you will be called Repairer of Broken Walls,
Restorer of Streets with Dwellings.
13 "If you keep your feet from breaking the Sabbath
and from doing as you please on my holy day,
if you call the Sabbath a delight
and the LORD's holy day honorable,
and if you honor it by not going your own way
and not doing as you please or speaking idle words,
14 then you will find your joy in the LORD,
and I will cause you to ride on the heights of the land
and to feast on the inheritance of your father Jacob."
The mouth of the LORD has spoken.
3 Trust in the LORD and do good;
dwell in the land and enjoy safe pasture.
4 Delight yourself in the LORD
and he will give you the desires of your heart.
5 Commit your way to the LORD;
trust in him and he will do this:
6 He will make your righteousness shine like the dawn,
the justice of your cause like the noonday sun.
7 Be still before the LORD and wait patiently for him;
do not fret when men succeed in their ways,
when they carry out their wicked schemes.