Actually the grass is greener in someone else’s yard. That is a fact. In fact my neighbor’s grass is greener than the 28 different kinds of weeds I call a lawn. No matter how hard you work someone will have a greener, fuller lawn than you. They will have a fuller head of hair, a better looking life, a faster car and their grass will be greener than yours. That is the way of life. Don’t despair. In order to get that nice green lawn they may have put down tons of fertilizer, pesticides and lord knows what else. If your kids play on your neighbor’s lawn they will be itching for weeks. Although your grass is not as pretty as your neighbor’s your family can safely run play and wallow around on it. You neighbor’s lawn can be as poisonous as it is pretty. The same can be said for their lives as well. Take Mary for example, (her name has been changed so I don’t get sued). She has a husband who makes six figures at an insurance company, she is a teacher and they have a nice house with a really green lawn. They have a child who excels at any sports he plays. Everything looks perfect especially if you compare their life to mine. I am fat, my wife has MS and I have diabetes. My yard has some grass in it but it is mostly weeds cut short to look like grass. I have two sons that I have not seen since they were little due to divorce and other complications and my credit score has got to be in the double digits. However when you look at the two completely different families the odd thing is that we are happy and they are not. Wait how can two professionals with a big house and manicured lawn not be happy while two sick people surrounded by vicious bill collectors and marauding weeds rejoice daily? Well that is where all the fertilizers and chemicals come in to play. You see Mary married a good looking man and she is rather beautiful herself. However he does not love her and I doubt that she loves him. He once told me the only reason he stays is that he does not want to pay child support like me. It is not like he can’t afford it. But he said she is too fat for him and hinted that her skin was too dark. His son once told me that the only reason that he is so good at sports was that he was desperate to win his father’s approval. The fact is while their lives look perfect they had to add a lot of "fertilizers and pesticides" to make the illusion of a perfect life. In doing so they poisoned their environment to the point you can feel the toxicity when you visit them. There is a total lack of tenderness or empathy for each other. Ok my life is not perfect. But I love my wife and my home. My yard is mine, despite the weeds and my house is comfortable. My yard is natural; Maybe too natural for some but it suites my personality. My wife and I are enmeshed and making it work for us. We love every minute we spend together. I would not trade that for the world. My home is a comfortable and loving place to be. You can feel the energy when you enter my home. We are making improvements like adding a greenhouse and garden to grow natural foods. My wife and I are not in perfect health. However we believe it is mostly due to the toxic foods we eat. If this is in fact the case we can correct this problem once the garden is in full bloom. We believe that what we eat not only affects our physical health but our mental health as well. Granted we are not scientist by any means however we have done our fair share of research. When people look at our lives they see love and contentment among a chaotic surrounding. Some call it magic others have no idea what to call it. I am should in their mind’s eye the grass of our lives seem pretty green despite the different shades of blues and yellows that seem to surround our daily existence. When I look at my life I do not see a perfect house or lawn. I see art in the making. Each day unfolds like a flower in the morning sun. Sometimes all the petals are not all perfectly aligned or even the same size but the colors are vivid and the smell is rather pleasant. When I look at my neighbor’s pretty yards I see just that: a pretty yard adding to the uniqueness and value of the neighborhood. Their lives are their business and I wish them happiness and good fortune. I spend no time feeling jealous because no one knows how they got to where they are now. No one can say how happy they are except them. I can only live my life and make the most of my situation. We all have it in us to be happy. Just look around and you will see all kinds of reasons why life is rather good. Take positive steps to change the things you feel are keeping you from experiencing joy. Make you grass as green as you want it to be within your means and abilities. Happiness is created a little every day until you build something that brings you joy. Most of all, even if you do not have the greenest grass, let it be green enough. So yes the grass is always greener on the other side. That is a fact. However the taste and texture of the grass is the part that should remain unknown.