When one seeks an answer and cannot find the answer, then, perhaps the question is wrong for the answer one seeks.
When one feels that something is wrong, and one asks the question, "Why are things like this?", there will always be the reasons one feels as to why things have become the way they are.
This is good knowledge to know for the purpose of understanding what not to do, however, this will get one nowhere towards changing things for the better.
One must learn acceptance of the reality of one's own person situation, and one must ask the question of "What can one do to change the present reality?".
The answer to this is proactive, and provides a path for change.
This does not diminish the value of the reactive answers, for, from these one gains wisdom.
Words of a friend of "The Light".
May peace be with all.